You deserve Everything

It is funny the ups and downs that life brings. We're always hearing the cliché "life is a rollercoaster," and it really is. Without realizing it, we can be at a low point in our lives, but that's precisely the moment we need to hold on to. Because a rollercoaster works with inertia, and so does life.

This rollercoaster ride taught me many invaluable lessons. First, I discovered how to get back to myself just to get lost again. And I never would've thought I would spend the last days of this transformative year morphing into someone new. And that is what life is about, transformation, love, happiness, joy, and lessons.

And here are the 3 invaluable lessons I learned this year :

Put yourself first. 

Doing this is essential; it's the easiest path to loving and respecting yourself. And it is challenging but wonderful. I thought I knew how to do it but, being foolishly in love and putting others' needs first, I forgot how it felt to love myself. Worst part? I was in love with the concept of love. Which is how I learned the second lesson:

Let go of control; whatever happens will happen.

I discovered that I like to control the outcome of every situation, and I do this unconsciously. This need to control is like a basic instinct, and I learned this harsh lesson in the last weeks of the year. How? By dating someone (which I swore I wasn't going to do this year). I'm dating someone incredible, nerdy, cute, honest, communicative, and funny. Not my type at first, but a great person. Dating him, I learned that I'm quite the controller, and I do that to protect myself from being hurt. So what do I do? I try to control the outcome and end up unconsciously hurting myself.

If this has ever happened to you, my best recommendation is to inhale, exhale, and cry a little if you need to.

You deserve everything.

Sometimes, by not putting myself first and controlling too much, I forget how much I've worked to be happy, present, and open every day. So here is a small list of things I think you, me, and everyone deserves:

- You deserve love, happiness, and peace.

- You deserve to go with the flow, to love yourself.

- You deserve to look at yourself in the mirror daily and smile at your reflection.

- You deserve to have space to create, discover, and think.

- You deserve to fall in love: blindly. Be it with a spark, for a day, or in the most unexpected way.

- You deserve to open your heart: discover every type of person that wants to love it.

- You deserve to be at peace, to wake up every day wanting to eat the world.

- You deserve to enjoy your youth and everything it gives you.

- You deserve to flow with that special someone: without control, expectations, or good vibes.

- You deserve to shine, only like you know how. 

We learn small lessons all the time. It is part of what makes life so incredible, spontaneous, and worth living.

This new cycle, you deserve love, always, everywhere. Wherever you go and whomever you are with. Start by shining your light.

With all the love I always have for you,

L